a difficult time leaving their parents. Your child may want to say
good-bye several times, or she may cry. Don’t threaten her or say,
“Be good and stop crying,” or “Be a big girl.” She needs support,
not pressure. You might be able to eliminate some of her anxiety
by letting her bring along a favorite toy or blanket. Try arriving at
school fifteen minutes early so you can spend more time with her
before you go. Or give her a special little treat when she gets in the
You should not try to sneak out of the school without saying
good-bye, even if you think such an action might keep your child
from crying. Eventually she’ll notice you’re gone and may become
frightened and upset. Although it’s painful to see your child cry as
you go, you should still say good-bye to her. You might feel better
if you wait outside the classroom door, listening for a few minutes
until she’s calmed down.
As time goes by, she may continue to have trouble leaving you at
the school door. Children two years old and younger don’t understand
that you’ll return, no matter how often you tell them. This
may make them anxious in the morning, and off and on throughout
the day. Consult with your child’s teachers. They may be able to
help by giving your child extra comfort and reassurance and getting
her involved in activities.
Will I see changes in my child’s behavior when he
goes to school or day care?
It might take your child a few weeks to adjust to school or day
care, and during that time you may see some changes in behavior,
such as bed-wetting, nightmares, decreased appetite, more frequent
whining, and reluctance to go to school. Getting used to a program
is more difficult for some children than others, but most children are
affected in some way during the early days of a new situation. You’ll
have to be patient and understanding as your child adjusts.
If, after several weeks, she’s still showing behavioral changes
and seems unhappy, talk to her teachers, and stay to observe the
program. You might even drop in unexpectedly to see how she
is and to try to find out why she isn’t enjoying herself. As you
watch her, ask yourself the following questions: Does she seem to
have friends she enjoys? Is she one of the youngest children in the
group? (If she is, she may feel less confident and accepted.) Is she
getting enough attention from her teachers? If the program seems
inappropriate, take her out and find a better one. But if you’re
unsure, wait a bit before making your decision. Your child just
might need an extra amount of understanding and time to adjust
to day care or school.
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